Marriages are made in heaven! These words are often uttered by married couples with grim bitterness. But they are also used hypocritically by those who are furthest removed from heaven. The natural consequence is that one has taken to shrugging one’s shoulders, to smiling, mocking and even sneering at these words.
This becomes understandable when a person considers all the marriages with which he has become acquainted in his own and wider circles during the course of years. The scoffers are right. Only it would be better not to ridicule the saying but the marriages themselves! In the majority of cases these deserve not only ridicule and scorn, but even contempt.
Marriages as they are today, and as they have already been for centuries, have so discredited the truth of this saying as to prevent anyone from believing in it. Unfortunately, with but very few exceptions, they are distinctly immoral. They cannot be brought to an end quickly enough in order to save thousands from the disgrace into which they blindly run because of present-day habits. They imagine that it cannot be different because it is customary. Added to this, everything at the present time is shamelessly directed towards dimming and suffocating every purer intuitive perception. No one thinks of making the personality what it should, could and must be by also showing the necessary respect for the physical body.
The body, like the soul, must be regarded as something precious and therefore untouchable, something that should not be exhibited in order to entice. Something Lofty, Sacred! This is why on this earth the body cannot be separated from the soul in this respect either. Like the soul it must be equally respected and preserved as a shrine, if it is to have any value at all. Otherwise it will become befouling junk, deserving nothing better than to be thrown into a corner and picked up cheaply by the first passing junk dealer. An army of such junk dealers swarming over the earth will find untold quantities of this junk. At every step they will find new collections just waiting for them. And truly such junk dealers and buyers are already wandering about in droves. They are envoys and tools of the darkness, who greedily seize their cheap booty to drag it triumphantly down further and further into their dark realm, till they are all swallowed up in blackness and can never find their way back to the Light. It is no wonder that everyone laughs when someone seriously affirms that marriages are made in heaven!
Civil marriage is nothing but a plain business contract. Those who thus bind themselves do not per chance do so in order seriously to tackle a joint task, which would raise the inner and outer value of the persons concerned, and also enable them to strive together for high aims, thereby becoming a blessing for themselves, for mankind and also for the whole of Creation; but they regard it as a simple contract ensuring each other’s material security, so that mutual physical surrender may proceed without any further financial consideration. Where does this leave the sanctity of the body which both sides should bring into and maintain within a marriage? This is not taken into consideration at all.
The position of the woman in this matter is so degrading that one should turn away from her. In eighty out of a hundred cases she hires or sells herself simply into the service of her husband, who does not seek in her a companion of equal worth but, apart from showing her off, merely uses her as a cheap and willing housekeeper to make his home comfortable, with whom he can also indulge his sensual appetite undisturbed and under the cover of a false respectability.
For the most trivial reasons young girls often leave the home of their parents in order to marry. Sometimes they are tired of being at home and long for a sphere of influence in which they are in charge. Others think it would be fascinating to play the role of a young wife or hope to get more excitement out of life. They may also believe they can better their economic position. There are also cases where a young girl marries out of spite to annoy some other person. Marriage can also be entered into merely out of physical desires, which have been awakened and artificially nourished by reading bad literature, through improper conversation and by playing around.
It is seldom the true love of the soul that urges them to take this most serious step of their earth-lives. Aided and abetted by many parents, girls are supposedly “too clever” to allow themselves solely to be guided by their purer intuitions, and thus they rush all the more easily into unhappiness. Such persons will already pay in part for their superficiality in their married life. But only in part! The bitter experience of reciprocal action in consequence of such improper marriages comes much later; for the main fault lies in irresponsibly neglecting the opportunity to advance. Many an earth-life is thereby completely lost to the real purpose of personal existence. This may even bring serious retrogression which must be laboriously made up for.
How different when a marriage has been entered into on the right foundation and develops harmoniously! Joyfully, one in the voluntary service of the other, the couple grows upward together towards spiritual ennoblement; shoulder to shoulder they smilingly face all mundane trials. The sheer happiness of such a marriage is of great benefit to whole existence. And in this happiness lies an upswing, not only for the individuals concerned, but for all humanity! Therefore, woe unto those parents who drive their children into improper marriages by persuasion, cunning, compulsion or rational considerations. The burden of responsibility, which extends further than that concerning the child only, will sooner or later fall back with such persistence upon them that they will wish never to have entertained such “brilliant ideas”.
The marriage ceremony in church is considered by many as only part of a purely mundane celebration. The churches themselves or their representatives use the words: “What God hath joined together, let not man put asunder!” In religious cults the fundamental thought is that those entering the bond of marriage are, through this act, being united by God. “Advanced persons” give it the meaning that the two entering the bond of marriage are thus united before God. The latter interpretation is more justifiable than the former.
Such an explanation, however, is not intended by these words! They are meant to convey something entirely different. They are based on the fact of such marriages as are truly made in heaven.
When all false conceptions and interpretations are removed from these words, then every cause for laughter, ridicule or sneering will cease immediately, and their meaning will lie before us in all its seriousness and unalterable truth. The natural result will then be the realization that marriages are meant and intended to be something entirely different from what they are today, i.e., that the bond of marriage may only be entered into under entirely different conditions, with entirely different views and convictions, and with absolutely pure motives.
“Marriages are made in heaven” indicates in the first place that already at birth every human being brings along certain qualities, the harmonious development of which can only be achieved through someone with compatible qualities. However, compatible qualities are not identical qualities, but ones that complement the others, and in complementing each other they obtain their full value. In this state of complete value all the strings sound as one harmonious chord. If one partner is made complete by the other partner, then the latter will also be made complete through the former, and in their union, that is, in their living and working together, this harmonious chord will sound. Such is the marriage which has been made in heaven.
However, this does not mean that for each person there is only one other particular person on earth with whom he can enter upon a harmonious marriage, but there are generally several who possess the qualities to complement the other person. It is therefore not necessary to wander about the earth for decades to find this second, truly fitting and complementary part. It is only a question of exercising the necessary seriousness, of keeping eyes, ears and heart open and, above all, of abstaining from all those hitherto required preconditions for marriage. Just what is regarded as important today shall not be. Working together and having high goals are as indispensable for a sound marriage as are exercise and fresh air for a healthy body. Whoever counts on having comfort and the greatest possible freedom from cares, and tries to build a mutual life thereon, will in the end only reap a state of unhealthiness, with all attendant side effects. Therefore seek at last to enter into marriages that are made in heaven. Then happiness will be yours!
Made in heaven signifies that two people were already destined for each other before or upon entering this earth-life. This being pre-destined, however, lies only in the qualities that each brought along, with which two people fully complement each other. Such persons are thereby meant for each other.
You could just as well express destined for each other as “suited for each other,” thus really complementing each other. Therein lies the predestination.
“What God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.” Much harm has already been caused by a misunderstanding of these words of Christ. Up till now many imagined that “what God hath joined” referred to the act of marriage. This, however, has so far had nothing to do with the meaning of the words. That which God has joined is a union where the conditions required for complete harmony are fulfilled, and is thus made in heaven. Whether or not the permission of the State and the Church has been given for this union makes no difference.
It is, of course, also necessary to observe civil laws. If, then, with such a bond, a wedding takes place according to a prevailing religious cult and with appropriate devoutness, it is quite natural that, through the inner attitude of those concerned, the union will receive a much higher consecration, which will bring a real and strong spiritual blessing to the couple. Such a marriage is then really united by and before God, and is made in heaven.
And now follows the warning: “Let not man put asunder!” To what insignificance has also the high meaning of these words been reduced. Yet the truth is so clearly evident! Wherever one finds a union that is made in heaven, i.e. where two people so complement each other that a full and harmonious chord results, there no third person shall attempt to bring about a separation. No matter whether it be to create discord, to make a union impossible, or to cause a separation, such an attempt would be a sin. It would be an injustice which in its reciprocal action must cling heavily to its originator, since two persons would be simultaneously affected by it, together with the blessing which through their happiness would have spread throughout the Gross Material and Ethereal Worlds. The simple truth that lies in these words is evident to all. The warning is intended to protect only such unions as have been made in heaven under the aforesaid conditions, which is confirmed by the fact that they brought along with them the necessary psychic qualities to complement each other.
No third person should interfere with two such souls, not even the parents! It will never occur to the two partners to wish for a separation. The divine harmony which is based on their mutual psychic qualities does not permit such a thought to arise. Their happiness and the permanence of their marriage is consequently assured from the start. If a divorce is proposed by one of the marriage partners it is the best proof that the necessary harmony is not at the basis of the marriage, and therefore that it cannot have been made in heaven. In such cases the marriage should definitely be ended in order to raise the moral self-respect of the couple living in such an unsound state. Such wrong marriages now form the great majority. The cause of this evil lies primarily in the moral decline of mankind, as well as in the prevailing worship of the intellect.
Separating those whom God has joined together applies not only to the marriage, but also to the preceding drawing together of the two souls. Through their complementing qualities, they can only develop harmony and are thus destined for each other. If they enter into such a union and a third party tries to interfere through slander or by similar well-known means, then this intention has already accomplished adultery!
The meaning of the words: “What God hath joined together, let not man put asunder” is so simple and clear that it is hard to understand how they could have been interpreted so erroneously. This was only possible by wrongly separating the Spiritual World from the Material World, resulting in a narrow intellectual conception, which has never yet produced anything of real value.
These words were given from the Spiritual World and it is only in the spiritual sense that they can find their true interpretation!